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Don’t Miss The Parenting Children Course @ WAB

Don’t Miss The Parenting Children Course @ WAB

The Parenting Children Course Location: WAB (Western Academy of Beijing) Course facilitators: Tarryn Wright (Certified Counselor, China Hope Center Shunyi) and Abby Langmead (BSB parent and group work trainer   How to register: please email tarryn@chinahopecenter.org Cost of course: Free! Course date and time: 14th of April, Elementary School 1st Floor Conference Room 21st of April, Middle School Loft 28th of April, Middle School Loft 5th of May, Middle School Loft 12th of May, Middle School Loft Time: 9:00am-11:30am Aimed  at parents of children aged 0-10 years. Course details: ‘The Parenting Children Course’ written by Nicky and Sila Lee from HTB London. Married for 30 years with 4 children they have spoken to thousands on the subject of parenting and family life challenges. They have also authored ‘The Parenting Book’ and ‘The Marriage Book’ and written courses based on their experiences. These courses are fully approved by the Chinese Government and ‘The Marriage Course’ has been running here for many years. The course is based on Christian principles of promoting positive family relationships and positive identity and self-worth. It is open to anyone regardless of personal belief. You can find out more details at www.relationshipcentral.ca/the-parenting-children-course/ Topics include: Building strong foundations (How the family should be a source of support to children providing a secure base, learning how to relate to one another, learning boundaries) Meeting our children’s needs (The emotional tank, unconditional love, the Five love languages based on Gary Chapman’s best selling book, expressing love in families) Setting boundaries (Different styles of parenting, helping children take responsibility, helping children make good choices) Teaching healthy relationships (Listening, dealing with emotions, modeling) Our long term aim (Aims for our children, healthy independence, a secure identity) About the course facilitators: Tarryn Wright, Counselor, China Hope Center, See Bio Abby Langmead is a friend of China Hope Center.  She holds a UK qualification to Masters level in Social Work with children and families. In the UK she ran groups with children, parents and conducted local authority training to Approved Foster Carers including child protection. She also ran support groups for children whose siblings had special needs. In China she previously worked as a training officer for the UK Charity ‘Care for Children’ designing...

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Sign Up Now: The Parenting Children Course

Sign Up Now: The Parenting Children Course

The Parenting Children Course Location: BSB Shunyi Course dates: ‪Mondays: February 22 & 29, 2016 ‪Mondays: March 7‪, 14 & 21, 2016 Course facilitators: Tarryn Wright (Certified Counselor, China Hope Center Shunyi) and Abby Langmead (BSB parent and group work trainer How to register: please email tarryn@chinahopecenter.org Cost of course: 200 RMB payable at first session. (All proceeds to BSB PA Charity) Aimed  at parents of children aged 0-10 years. Course details: ‘The Parenting Children Course’ written by Nicky and Sila Lee from HTB London. Married for 30 years with 4 children they have spoken to thousands on the subject of parenting and family life challenges. They have also authored ‘The Parenting Book’ and ‘The Marriage Book’ and written courses based on their experiences. These courses are fully approved by the Chinese Government and ‘The Marriage Course’ has been running here for many years. The course is based on Christian principles of promoting positive family relationships and positive identity and self-worth. It is open to anyone regardless of personal belief. You can find out more details at www.relationshipcentral.ca/the-parenting-children-course/ Topics include: Building strong foundations (How the family should be a source of support to children providing a secure base, learning how to relate to one another, learning boundaries) Meeting our children’s needs (The emotional tank, unconditional love, the Five love languages based on Gary Chapman’s best selling book, expressing love in families) Setting boundaries (Different styles of parenting, helping children take responsibility, helping children make good choices) Teaching healthy relationships (Listening, dealing with emotions, modeling) Our long term aim (Aims for our children, healthy independence, a secure identity) About the course facilitators: Tarryn Wright, Counselor, China Hope Center, See Bio Abby Langmead is a friend of China Hope Center.  She holds a UK qualification to Masters level in Social Work with children and families. In the UK she ran groups with children, parents and conducted local authority training to Approved Foster Carers including child protection. She also ran support groups for children whose siblings had special needs. In China she previously worked as a training officer for the UK Charity ‘Care for Children’ designing and conducting cross cultural training on behalf of the Chinese government to Chinese foster carers.  She has...

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Helping a Friend or Family Member who has had a Miscarriage

Helping a Friend or Family Member who has had a Miscarriage

  Miscarriage is common but often misunderstood by those who have not walked though it.  A person’s experience of pain and loss is subjective.  Here are some reminders for those who are sharing this journey:   What not to say…   “Don’t worry you can have another baby.” “Well, at least you know you can get pregnant.” “You have other children.” “It wasn’t a real baby.” “Aren’t you over that yet?” “Lots of women have miscarriages – it’s no big deal.”   Even worse, as can happen in a Chinese culture, is to blame the mother for getting “cold” or, as happens in a Western culture, to blame the mother for “overdoing things”. “It’s nothing you’ve done and it’s nothing you haven’t done.  It happens.”   Dr. Juliette Kinn, OB/GYN, Oasis Hospital Beijing   What not to do…   Don’t avoid your friend even if she is not much fun to be around right now.  She needs you more than ever.  Don’t pretend it never happened.  The mother may be hurt by your silence about her miscarriage.   What to do…   Just be a friend.  Bring over nutritious soups.  Listen.  Empathize and be a shoulder to cry on.  Give her a well-written book on the subject of miscarriage, such  as ‘Silent Grief’ by Clara Hinton.  Keep inviting the mother out to social events even if she refuses to go – eventually she will want to.   When the time is right, hold out the hope we have as Christians that we will see our loved ones that we never got to hold on this earth.  Watch ‘Heaven is for Real’ together or give the mother the book to read.   Finally…   Don’t forget the father.  Men hurt too although they may grieve in different ways from the mother.  Encourage the mother and father to draw closer together in their grief and not pull apart.  Give the father the space to share his sadness about the hopes and dreams that died with the baby.   China Hope Center will be hosting a miscarriage support group in the near future.  If you are interested in attending this, whether your miscarriage was recent or many years ago, please contact...

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Identifying Co-Dependency

Identifying Co-Dependency

How do I know if I am in a codependent relationship? Codependency is an addiction to a person and pleasing that person. In a codependent relationship, there is a loss of clear and healthy boundaries between the two people. The codependent loses a sense of self and “their voice” to speak out their unique desires and needs. The codependent is driven by a fear of losing the relationship and driven by a need to please the other person or “make them happy.” From a Christian worldview, this is actually a form of idolatry. That is, trying to find life in someone or something other than God. To determine if you are in a codependent relationship, here are a few questions to ask yourself. Do you assume responsibility or guilt for the other person’s feelings or actions? Are you afraid to tell your partner what you want or need? Do you compromise your own values or integrity in order to avoid the rejection or anger of the other person? Do you stay in relationships because of loyalty, even though the person is abusive or harmful to you? Do you stay in an unhealthy relationship because you fear that “you could not live without this person?” If you are in a codependent relationship, how can you change? The first step in acknowledging that you struggle with codependency. Ask God to show you the areas in which you have made idols out of codependent relationships with people.  Ask for help to change. Setting clear and healthy boundaries in a relationship is essential. You can learn more about this in the book Boundaries, by Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud. Seek help from a professional counselor. A professional counselor will provide you with a safe and confidential place to work on your codependency.   They are trained in how to identify codependent relationships and how to help people create healthier...

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