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7 Tips for Surviving the Season

7 Tips for Surviving the Season

    Pinpoint your Stressors. Take a few moments to evaluate what it was that caused you stress last holiday season. Did you feel lonely and/or homesick or did you attend too many social activities and end up exhausted? Once you know you have identified a few of your holiday stressors, you can plan how to deal with them. Schedule some Memorable Activities into your Holiday Season. Research indicates that it is experiences that bring us happiness, not things.  Reconnect with a childhood tradition or make a new one. Find Meaning in the Season. If Ebenezer Scrooge could do it, so can you!  Volunteering your time to help a charity or simply giving to others in need will bring a sense of fulfillment and purpose during the holidays. Get Outside and Move. Though you can’t change the Beijing air quality, make a point to get outside and move around on good air days. When our bodies don’t have the opportunity to burn stored up energy through aerobic activity, this excess energy fuels worry and frustration. Even a short walk will go miles towards your wellbeing. Treat Yourself to a Massage. Can’t relax? Need to get out of the house but not into the bad air? Beijing has no shortage of places to get a good foot massage or even a whole body massage. Invite a friend if possible and chat while you unwind – win win! Get your Zzzz…A Beijing winter brings short days and long nights. With longer nights, our bodies actually need more sleep. An unrested body often leads to a restless mind, which can promote anxiety and frustration. Sleep a bit longer than you might in the spring or summer and your mind and body will thank you. Be Thankful… Studies show that people who spend regular time being grateful for what they have, rather than being frustrated with what they don’t have, experience greater levels of optimism, positive mood, and feelings of belonging....

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Expat Adoption Seminar: Nov. 2nd & 5th

Expat Adoption Seminar: Nov. 2nd & 5th

      China Hope Center In association with Children’s Hope International and  Children’s Hope Foundation Present: Expat Adoption Information Seminar What: An Adoption and Foster Care Information Seminar for expats interested in adopting or fostering while living overseas. Seminar facilitated by Tammy Watkins, an adoption social worker licensed in China with Children’s Hope International and China Hope Foundation. When: Sunday, November 2nd from 2:00pm-3:30pm and Wednesday, November 5th from 10am- 11:30am. Both meetings will share the same information and are coming up quickly, so please email to RSVP for one of the seminars dates today Where: China Hope Center, 3012 Capital Paradise–Parking is limited inside compound, so either park at clubhouse near tennis courts and walk towards back southwest corner of compound or park on street outside the compound, on the south west side of Capital Paradise (same street as Piazza and Lion Mart) and walk in SW gate, then turn left at the path and our office is at 3012 on left. Why: The adoption process can seem overwhelming. We want to help you understand the process better so you can have the confidence you need in order to take the first step. Whether or not you have the desire to adopt, you can still be involved in helping orphans in China. There are many children with varying degrees of disabilities and ages who are in need of a loving family and help. Feel free to send this information to your Beijing friends who have a heart for orphans. If you have friends in other cities that might be interested, please ask them to contact us. We would be happy to discuss the possibility of arranging meetings with expats in other cities. If you are unable to attend either meeting and would like to learn more, please contact us at: wattcom@mac.com If you plan to attend either meeting, please RSVP by email to: wattcom@mac.com We look forward to seeing you on November 2nd or November 5th! ~ Child care is not available for this event...

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Marriage is a Team Sport

Marriage is a Team Sport

“Marriage is a team sport; you either win together or lose together.” If marriage is a team sport, then the name of the game must be intimacy.  Here are 3 tips on how to create intimacy in your relationship.   1) Practice Active Listening Active listening means giving full attention to your partner when communicating. This means you’ll want to turn off electronic gadgets and make eye to eye contact when talking.   2) Give Daily Compliments Is there one positive thing your partner has done today?  Smiled? Went to work? Cooked for you? Changed your child’s diaper? Think of something positive and share it.   3) Share Your Feelings with “I” Statements. Avoid “You” statements. This way you can share your feelings without blaming the other person. Blaming or shaming your partner will not build the intimacy you want.  For example, “You never help with housework!” is a blaming statement. Instead, try an “I” statement like,”I feel overwhelmed with all the housework. I’d like your help to create a solution for this problem. Any ideas?”   As my Grandma used to say,”You attract more bees with honey than with...

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