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Don’t Miss The Parenting Children Course @ WAB

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Don’t Miss The Parenting Children Course @ WAB

The Parenting Children Course Location: WAB (Western Academy of Beijing) Course facilitators: Tarryn Wright (Certified Counselor, China Hope Center Shunyi) and Abby Langmead (BSB parent and group work trainer   How to register: please email tarryn@chinahopecenter.org Cost of course: Free! Course date and time: 14th of April, Elementary School 1st Floor Conference Room 21st of April, Middle School Loft 28th of April, Middle School Loft 5th of May, Middle School Loft 12th of May, Middle School Loft Time: 9:00am-11:30am Aimed  at parents of children aged 0-10 years. Course details: ‘The Parenting Children Course’ written by Nicky and Sila Lee from HTB London. Married for 30 years with 4 children they have spoken to thousands on the subject of parenting and family life challenges. They have also authored ‘The Parenting Book’ and ‘The Marriage Book’ and written courses based on their experiences. These courses are fully approved by the Chinese Government and ‘The Marriage Course’ has been running here for many years. The course is based on Christian principles of promoting positive family relationships and positive identity and self-worth. It is open to anyone regardless of personal belief. You can find out more details at www.relationshipcentral.ca/the-parenting-children-course/ Topics include: Building strong foundations (How the family should be a source of support to children providing a secure base, learning how to relate to one another, learning boundaries) Meeting our children’s needs (The emotional tank, unconditional love, the Five love languages based on Gary Chapman’s best selling book, expressing love in families) Setting boundaries (Different styles of parenting, helping children take responsibility, helping children make good choices) Teaching healthy relationships (Listening, dealing with emotions, modeling) Our long term aim (Aims for our children, healthy independence, a secure identity) About the course facilitators: Tarryn Wright, Counselor, China Hope Center, See Bio Abby Langmead is a friend of China Hope Center.  She holds a UK qualification to Masters level in Social Work with children and families. In the UK she ran groups with children, parents and conducted local authority training to Approved Foster Carers including child protection. She also ran support groups for children whose siblings had special needs. In China she previously worked as a training officer for the UK Charity ‘Care for Children’ designing and conducting cross cultural training on behalf of the Chinese government to Chinese foster carers.  She has been raising two boys oversees for the last 12 years and understands the challenges of bringing up children...

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Sign Up Now: The Parenting Children Course

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Sign Up Now: The Parenting Children Course

The Parenting Children Course Location: BSB Shunyi Course dates: ‪Mondays: February 22 & 29, 2016 ‪Mondays: March 7‪, 14 & 21, 2016 Course facilitators: Tarryn Wright (Certified Counselor, China Hope Center Shunyi) and Abby Langmead (BSB parent and group work trainer How to register: please email tarryn@chinahopecenter.org Cost of course: 200 RMB payable at first session. (All proceeds to BSB PA Charity) Aimed  at parents of children aged 0-10 years. Course details: ‘The Parenting Children Course’ written by Nicky and Sila Lee from HTB London. Married for 30 years with 4 children they have spoken to thousands on the subject of parenting and family life challenges. They have also authored ‘The Parenting Book’ and ‘The Marriage Book’ and written courses based on their experiences. These courses are fully approved by the Chinese Government and ‘The Marriage Course’ has been running here for many years. The course is based on Christian principles of promoting positive family relationships and positive identity and self-worth. It is open to anyone regardless of personal belief. You can find out more details at www.relationshipcentral.ca/the-parenting-children-course/ Topics include: Building strong foundations (How the family should be a source of support to children providing a secure base, learning how to relate to one another, learning boundaries) Meeting our children’s needs (The emotional tank, unconditional love, the Five love languages based on Gary Chapman’s best selling book, expressing love in families) Setting boundaries (Different styles of parenting, helping children take responsibility, helping children make good choices) Teaching healthy relationships (Listening, dealing with emotions, modeling) Our long term aim (Aims for our children, healthy independence, a secure identity) About the course facilitators: Tarryn Wright, Counselor, China Hope Center, See Bio Abby Langmead is a friend of China Hope Center.  She holds a UK qualification to Masters level in Social Work with children and families. In the UK she ran groups with children, parents and conducted local authority training to Approved Foster Carers including child protection. She also ran support groups for children whose siblings had special needs. In China she previously worked as a training officer for the UK Charity ‘Care for Children’ designing and conducting cross cultural training on behalf of the Chinese government to Chinese foster carers.  She has been raising two boys oversees for the last 12 years and understands the challenges of bringing up children...

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Helping a Friend or Family Member who has had a Miscarriage

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Helping a Friend or Family Member who has had a Miscarriage

  Miscarriage is common but often misunderstood by those who have not walked though it.  A person’s experience of pain and loss is subjective.  Here are some reminders for those who are sharing this journey:   What not to say…   “Don’t worry you can have another baby.” “Well, at least you know you can get pregnant.” “You have other children.” “It wasn’t a real baby.” “Aren’t you over that yet?” “Lots of women have miscarriages – it’s no big deal.”   Even worse, as can happen in a Chinese culture, is to blame the mother for getting “cold” or, as happens in a Western culture, to blame the mother for “overdoing things”. “It’s nothing you’ve done and it’s nothing you haven’t done.  It happens.”   Dr. Juliette Kinn, OB/GYN, Oasis Hospital Beijing   What not to do…   Don’t avoid your friend even if she is not much fun to be around right now.  She needs you more than ever.  Don’t pretend it never happened.  The mother may be hurt by your silence about her miscarriage.   What to do…   Just be a friend.  Bring over nutritious soups.  Listen.  Empathize and be a shoulder to cry on.  Give her a well-written book on the subject of miscarriage, such  as ‘Silent Grief’ by Clara Hinton.  Keep inviting the mother out to social events even if she refuses to go – eventually she will want to.   When the time is right, hold out the hope we have as Christians that we will see our loved ones that we never got to hold on this earth.  Watch ‘Heaven is for Real’ together or give the mother the book to read.   Finally…   Don’t forget the father.  Men hurt too although they may grieve in different ways from the mother.  Encourage the mother and father to draw closer together in their grief and not pull apart.  Give the father the space to share his sadness about the hopes and dreams that died with the baby.   China Hope Center will be hosting a miscarriage support group in the near future.  If you are interested in attending this, whether your miscarriage was recent or many years ago, please contact...

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Identifying Co-Dependency

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Identifying Co-Dependency

How do I know if I am in a codependent relationship? Codependency is an addiction to a person and pleasing that person. In a codependent relationship, there is a loss of clear and healthy boundaries between the two people. The codependent loses a sense of self and “their voice” to speak out their unique desires and needs. The codependent is driven by a fear of losing the relationship and driven by a need to please the other person or “make them happy.” From a Christian worldview, this is actually a form of idolatry. That is, trying to find life in someone or something other than God. To determine if you are in a codependent relationship, here are a few questions to ask yourself. Do you assume responsibility or guilt for the other person’s feelings or actions? Are you afraid to tell your partner what you want or need? Do you compromise your own values or integrity in order to avoid the rejection or anger of the other person? Do you stay in relationships because of loyalty, even though the person is abusive or harmful to you? Do you stay in an unhealthy relationship because you fear that “you could not live without this person?” If you are in a codependent relationship, how can you change? The first step in acknowledging that you struggle with codependency. Ask God to show you the areas in which you have made idols out of codependent relationships with people.  Ask for help to change. Setting clear and healthy boundaries in a relationship is essential. You can learn more about this in the book Boundaries, by Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud. Seek help from a professional counselor. A professional counselor will provide you with a safe and confidential place to work on your codependency.   They are trained in how to identify codependent relationships and how to help people create healthier...

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His Needs, Her Needs Marriage Seminar

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His Needs, Her Needs Marriage Seminar

For over 25 years, His Needs, Her Needs, by Dr. Willard F Harley has been transforming marriages all over the world. Now this life-changing book is the basis for an interactive six-session couples’ seminar in Beijing. Dr. Forrest Spears & Erica Spears, LMSW-C will facilitate the seminar that will teach you and your spouse to meet each other’s emotional needs for affection, sex, intimate conversation, companionship, family commitment, physical attractiveness, honesty and openness, and admiration. As you and your spouse walk through the study together we hope you will remember why you fell in love in the first place, renew your commitment to marriage, and rediscover your passion. Register by: March 20th @ info@chinahopecenter.org Date: Saturday, March 28, 2015 Time: 9:00 a.m. – 5:30 p.m. Place: Shunyi, Beijing Cost: 400 RMB/couple (lunch included) For a printable flyer to this event, click...

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7 Tips for Surviving the Season

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7 Tips for Surviving the Season

    Pinpoint your Stressors. Take a few moments to evaluate what it was that caused you stress last holiday season. Did you feel lonely and/or homesick or did you attend too many social activities and end up exhausted? Once you know you have identified a few of your holiday stressors, you can plan how to deal with them. Schedule some Memorable Activities into your Holiday Season. Research indicates that it is experiences that bring us happiness, not things.  Reconnect with a childhood tradition or make a new one. Find Meaning in the Season. If Ebenezer Scrooge could do it, so can you!  Volunteering your time to help a charity or simply giving to others in need will bring a sense of fulfillment and purpose during the holidays. Get Outside and Move. Though you can’t change the Beijing air quality, make a point to get outside and move around on good air days. When our bodies don’t have the opportunity to burn stored up energy through aerobic activity, this excess energy fuels worry and frustration. Even a short walk will go miles towards your wellbeing. Treat Yourself to a Massage. Can’t relax? Need to get out of the house but not into the bad air? Beijing has no shortage of places to get a good foot massage or even a whole body massage. Invite a friend if possible and chat while you unwind – win win! Get your Zzzz…A Beijing winter brings short days and long nights. With longer nights, our bodies actually need more sleep. An unrested body often leads to a restless mind, which can promote anxiety and frustration. Sleep a bit longer than you might in the spring or summer and your mind and body will thank you. Be Thankful… Studies show that people who spend regular time being grateful for what they have, rather than being frustrated with what they don’t have, experience greater levels of optimism, positive mood, and feelings of belonging....

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Expat Adoption Seminar: Nov. 2nd & 5th

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Expat Adoption Seminar: Nov. 2nd & 5th

      China Hope Center In association with Children’s Hope International and  Children’s Hope Foundation Present: Expat Adoption Information Seminar What: An Adoption and Foster Care Information Seminar for expats interested in adopting or fostering while living overseas. Seminar facilitated by Tammy Watkins, an adoption social worker licensed in China with Children’s Hope International and China Hope Foundation. When: Sunday, November 2nd from 2:00pm-3:30pm and Wednesday, November 5th from 10am- 11:30am. Both meetings will share the same information and are coming up quickly, so please email to RSVP for one of the seminars dates today Where: China Hope Center, 3012 Capital Paradise–Parking is limited inside compound, so either park at clubhouse near tennis courts and walk towards back southwest corner of compound or park on street outside the compound, on the south west side of Capital Paradise (same street as Piazza and Lion Mart) and walk in SW gate, then turn left at the path and our office is at 3012 on left. Why: The adoption process can seem overwhelming. We want to help you understand the process better so you can have the confidence you need in order to take the first step. Whether or not you have the desire to adopt, you can still be involved in helping orphans in China. There are many children with varying degrees of disabilities and ages who are in need of a loving family and help. Feel free to send this information to your Beijing friends who have a heart for orphans. If you have friends in other cities that might be interested, please ask them to contact us. We would be happy to discuss the possibility of arranging meetings with expats in other cities. If you are unable to attend either meeting and would like to learn more, please contact us at: wattcom@mac.com If you plan to attend either meeting, please RSVP by email to: wattcom@mac.com We look forward to seeing you on November 2nd or November 5th! ~ Child care is not available for this event...

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Marriage is a Team Sport

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Marriage is a Team Sport

“Marriage is a team sport; you either win together or lose together.” If marriage is a team sport, then the name of the game must be intimacy.  Here are 3 tips on how to create intimacy in your relationship.   1) Practice Active Listening Active listening means giving full attention to your partner when communicating. This means you’ll want to turn off electronic gadgets and make eye to eye contact when talking.   2) Give Daily Compliments Is there one positive thing your partner has done today?  Smiled? Went to work? Cooked for you? Changed your child’s diaper? Think of something positive and share it.   3) Share Your Feelings with “I” Statements. Avoid “You” statements. This way you can share your feelings without blaming the other person. Blaming or shaming your partner will not build the intimacy you want.  For example, “You never help with housework!” is a blaming statement. Instead, try an “I” statement like,”I feel overwhelmed with all the housework. I’d like your help to create a solution for this problem. Any ideas?”   As my Grandma used to say,”You attract more bees with honey than with...

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